She wants 2.3 more years of sex with other men before she settles for you.

As I wrote in A very long season, feminists don’t want to waste a day more of their youth and fertility on their husbands than absolutely necessary. As if to prove this very point, 30 year old Mona Chalabi writes in the NY Times* I Want My 2.3 Bonus Years:

If I could prolong my time as a young adult by, say, 2.3 years, here is a list of things I would like to do:

• Go to more parties. Preferably wild parties that I can think about, years later, at mild parties.

• Get fit (i.e., get at least one ab before I die). This, I’m told, is easier to achieve when you’re young.

• Have more romantic partners. Preferably ones with abs.

• Get a bit higher up the career ladder a bit earlier on. That would probably boost my earnings, giving me more financial security. I could use that money to go to more parties, get a membership to a fancy gym and maybe even meet a romantic partner on the ab machines.

To drive the message home, the image at the top of the article is a cartoon of a resentful Chalabi giving her future husband the side eye for her lost years of sampling penises!

On the bright side men, Chalabi appears to still be available, and she is frantically making a lifetime’s worth of happy memories with other men as you read this.  Give her say 2.3 more years (give or take a penis or three), and you could be the lucky man paying the bills and getting the side eye!

On a related note, I did a Google search trying to find the previous post where I wrote about women not wanting waste their youth and fertility on their husbands.  Google not only helped me find my own post, it suggested a number of related searches by Chalabi’s peers:

wasteyouth

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*HT Just Sharing.

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  2. nick012000 says:

    >Chalabi was born to Arabic-speaking immigrants and grew up in England.
    Frankly, she should be glad that her parents didn’t arrange her a marriage at 16 to an upstanding young gentleman who’d throw acid at her face for being the harlot that she clearly is.

  3. Lost Patrol says:

    Always with the homework. Here is Mona:

    FiveThirtyEight owned since 2014 by ESPN.

    https://infogalactic.com/info/FiveThirtyEight

  4. PokeSalad says:

    Yick. I wouldn’t touch that with a 10-foot cattle prod.

    Good luck, hon. You are going to need it.

  5. earl says:

    She can have her 2.3 bonus years…plus however rest of the time on Earth the good Lord gives her to live in regret for choosing the path of loneliness, cats, and infertility from STDs.

  6. Neguy says:

    It’s astonishing how open women are about this stuff today. Not that you’d ever hear the church adjust its teachings to reflect reality.

  7. Chris says:

    She needs to do something with that mane. Yikes.

  8. Patrick Albanese says:

    Why does she need 2.3 extra years for more romantic partners? She can have a new one every night if she desires.

    Unless she wants to pretend she is having a relationship with these men. I suppose then you need a lead up phase to the sex, the sex phase itself, then a wind down to the dumping phase. What does that take? A month or two?

    But if you skip pretending to have a relationship (and let’s face it, what she is talking about are one night stands), then she could have 30 partners before October is over.

    Just how many “romantic partners” does she need before it’s time to settle down?

  9. feministhater says:

    I’m glad she is letting everyone know. She is more honest and upfront than most women these days. At least any man who wishes to marry her will know exactly what he is getting.

  10. Frank K says:

    Just how many “romantic partners” does she need before it’s time to settle down?

    As many as she can get, until she sees The Wall approaching like a runaway freight train (i.e.: hot guys don’t want to bed her anymore), then it’s time to reel in a beta with a fat wallet.

    The fact that she’s grilling dates on their attitudes regarding marriage and fatherhood shows she’s already in the early stages, but is still hoping to reel in Mr. Big; but as she is quickly learning, none are interested in putting a ring on her. Eventually, she will begin to consider higher quality betas, you know, guys with looks but not the complete personality package or $$$, and lower her standards until some schlub proposes. Of course, if she keeps her standards too high, and she probably will, she’ll end up empty handed.

    I think that being exotic trumps being bitchy for the short term pump n dump “relationships” but that any man who she would deem acceptable will understand that she isn’t wife material. And heaven help her if she has an STD.

  11. Gunner Q says:

    nick012000 @ 8:40 am:
    “Chalabi was born to Arabic-speaking immigrants and grew up in England.”

    I would’ve guessed half-black from the skin color, inverted afro haircut and attitude.

    Patrick Albanese @ 9:15 am:
    “Why does she need 2.3 extra years for more romantic partners?”

    Because her empty womb wants 2.3 children? She wouldn’t be the first NY Times staffer to drink away her humanity every night.

  12. earl says:

    She will soon learn how the carousel ends…

    Like Frank mentioned, No Mr. Big will put a ring on her…
    If any of the decent guys have any sense or an internet connection…they won’t either
    The schlubs and white knights will either become more red pill and avoid her or she won’t be attracted to them anyway
    She’ll either ends up alone with cats or finds the ‘meh’ man of her dreams

  13. Anonymous Reader says:

    NEguy
    It’s astonishing how open women are about this stuff today.

    They are open about their hypergamy more and more, because there’s no penalty for doing so.
    Quite the opposite, in a lot of social circles.

    Not that you’d ever hear the church adjust its teachings to reflect reality.

    That’s a big can of worms, that is.

    From InfoGalactic

    She sees the importance of data journalism in the fact that politicians cannot get away with false claims anymore.[6] Her work covers many diverse interests and she has written about racial dating preferences[7] to research on Wikipedia.[8]

    This is a not-very-good edit of the Wiki article, but “research on Wikipedia” made me laugh; midschool students in the US are usually prohibited from using Wiki as a source because it is not reliable.

    The NYT article has this paragraph 2nd to last:
    So, this is where I ask for help from other single women seeking men. Sign a pledge with me here today. Not of celibacy (where’s the fun in that?), but let’s end this scourge once and for all by committing to contemporaries.

    “All you other girls stop dating older men, ok?” it is to laugh.

  14. earl says:

    @ Anon Reader

    ‘They are open about their hypergamy more and more, because there’s no penalty for doing so.
    Quite the opposite, in a lot of social circles.’

    Sign a pledge with me here today. Not of celibacy (where’s the fun in that?)

    Not only are they more open about they’re hypergamy, they are quite open about being sexually immoral with little to no social penalty. And I believe the two go together.

  15. Wow, what a stupid article.

  16. Opus says:

    Chalabi: wasn’t he the satrap you placed in charge of Iraq. he had political exile in London so I wonder whether he and the tart are related.

  17. Otto says:

    What is unusual is this story is no longer unusual.

    We have devalued marriage to the point that it is considered a second-best lifestyle. Women now not only settle for a husband, they settle for marriage.

  18. feministhater says:

    Wow, what a stupid article.

    Yep, it’s really her complaining that men don’t change their preferences over time the same way as women and prefer women in their peak fertility years. She’s sees it as a sacrifice that the women always marries younger whilst the man gets to fuck around for longer or some shit like that.

    Why do they even complain. No one expects them to get married, no one expects them to settle down. They can live the life they want and have free sex until the day they die. So what’s the problem? Oh… they want marriage… oh well. guess they forgot that marriage comes with sacrifice and they weren’t willing to make it.

    I hope she gets the best damn champ of a cuck she could ever hope for the bride… I mean groom.. to be.

  19. honeycomb says:

    OTTO ..

    What is unusual is this story is no longer unusual.

    We have devalued marriage to the point that it is considered a second-best lifestyle. Women now not only settle for a husband, they settle for marriage WEDDING DAY.

    FIFY

  20. Cane Caldo says:

    As I wrote in A very long season, feminists don’t want to waste a day more of their youth and fertility on their husbands than absolutely necessary.

    Man this is a powerful phrase. I’ve borrowed it several times and said or asked it of others who advise to delay marriage. “Wouldn’t want to waste your youth and beauty on your husband, would you?” It’s a showstopper.

  21. ahlstar says:

    Get fit (i.e., get at least one ab before I die). This, I’m told, is easier to achieve when you’re young.

    Don’t sell yourself short, sweet thing. I’m betting there’s an ab in there somewhere.
    One jiggly, flabby, ever-expanding ab.
    Gross.

  22. feministhater says:

    We have devalued marriage to the point that it is considered a second-best lifestyle. Women now not only settle for a husband, they settle for marriage.

    Yeah, no. If that were truly the case, women would be happy they made it to 40 without a wedding ring. It wouldn’t be the false bravado we see constantly pumped in the mainstream media. They still require, yes require, the status of being married. It’s a failure for them not to get married after their feminist journey. The trick is that when they are hot and young, they really don’t need or want marriage but once they stop getting interest and rewarded with drama from the men who pursue them, then they need marriage. That brings them a new buffet of drama to choose from; and poor hubby gets to slurp up the baggage from hundreds of other men as he tries to soothe the tyrant that is his used up feminist wife.

    The truth is that they’re only mad because the men that wanted them in the past do not want them once they are ready for marriage; adding insult to injury, those same men get to choose women younger than them who, likewise, are not interested in marriage….. yet.

  23. Fred Flange, GBFC (Great Books for Cucks) says:

    @Anonymous Rapstar
    “They are open about their hypergamy more and more, because there’s no penalty for doing so.”

    Indeed, it shows even more in her attempted repeat gags about wanting to date guys with abs before she settles for scabs with slabs (spheroid-shaped Beta white knight cuckfathers). In assuming readers will see those gags as attempts at good-natured humor, she amply reinforces the AF/BB Pareto principles her readers also assume.

    To wit: She wants a Chad, just like the other 80% of women chasing the Chad 20% but she is further down in the pack. Chad however can do better, and was not sent to Intersectionality 101 class for regrooving in how he should refocus his mating efforts towards wild-eyed wild-haired libido-killing humorless scolds.

    Sadly, in my misspent Beta chode days, I know I would have tried to obey dutifully the societal SNAG double-plus-good-think programming. I would feel obligated to get with gals like this. Because they’re strong and independent yay! They don’t need no man but they might learn to like me when I show them I’m such a fart-smeller (oops smart-feller)! They’re edumacated so I haz a chance to blind them with my science!

    I would have been friendzoned in nano-seconds, then I’d have felt sorry for myself for my inadequacies as a male-type person, not realizing the buzzsaw I would have been put through had I successfully landed such a Graduette. Good thing I didn’t do it! Except I did. More than once. Which is to say, too much. Yeek. Wake up and smell the paint thinner bottle, gentlemen.

  24. Frank K says:

    Hmmm … looks like Tiger just keeps hoping the that this time she’ll be the one.

    Given how he’s hit the wall himself, it’s not too surprising that he’s traded down himself. She looks rather post wall herself. He’s definitely punching below his weight.

  25. GregMan says:

    “She sees the importance of data journalism in the fact that politicians cannot get away with false claims anymore.”

    “She sees the importance of data journalism in the fact that Republican politicians cannot get away with even the truth anymore, while liberals can say any sh*t they want and get away scot-free.”

  26. Anonymous Reader says:

    Fred Flange Is Not Great Books For Men
    I would have been friendzoned in nano-seconds, then I’d have felt sorry for myself for my inadequacies as a male-type person, not realizing the buzzsaw I would have been put through had I successfully landed such a Graduette.

    I think “woodchipper” is more accurate than “buzzsaw”.

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  28. Neguy says:

    Dalrock, here’s another one for you, hot off the presses:

    https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2017/10/why-happy-people-cheat/537882/

  29. earl says:

    “Wouldn’t want to waste your youth and beauty on your husband, would you?” It’s a showstopper.

    It is? I figure based on what I’ve seen and read most women are so deep into selfishness that they don’t care they are wasting their precious gifts on passing men.

  30. Casey says:

    From the article link provided by Dalrock.

    This is CLASSIC projection by the writer.

    “I know I’m not a fun first date. I want to ask prospective partners whether they want to become parents and when — and excuse me? You haven’t given it much thought? A shrug from a man who already has a couple of gray hairs strikes me as wild arrogance.”

    “This arrogance has, as I see it, two main causes — one, a belief that their spermatozoa are good for a very long time, indeed, and two, a belief that they could get a younger woman if they wanted to. Let me examine the evidence for each of those male beliefs; fertility first.”

    “Your sperm is not immortal. A study that tracked 8,559 pregnancies found that “conception during a 12-month period was 30 percent less likely for men over age 40 years as compared with men younger than age 30 years.”

    Now let’s dissect that last comment. Conception requires both MALE and FEMALE participants. If the male was 40 years old, what age was the corresponding female in this study?

    Methinks the female fertility problem is being foisted upon the men in the equation.

    “Men are much less fooled when it comes to that second belief — that they could get a younger woman if they wanted to. I’m not just basing this on the Census Bureau data I cited. There’s also the information gleaned from OkCupid’s millions of preferences. The dating site’s researchers found that most conversations take place between an older man and a younger woman and in almost half of them, the age gap is at least five years.”

    “But men might still be mistaken about just how much younger their next partner could be. That same OkCupid data shows that even when men are in their late 40s, they carry on looking at the profiles of women age 20 to 24 (women, by contrast look at older men’s profiles as they get older).”

    “Where do 50-year-old men get this strange impression that they could date a 23-year-old? Perhaps it’s their TV screens. When New York magazine looked at the careers of 10 leading men, it found that as they aged, their onscreen love interests didn’t. Take Liam Neeson. In 1990, he appeared alongside Frances McDormand, who was five years younger than he. By the time he starred in “Third Person” in 2013, the 61-year-old Neeson’s lover was played by 29-year-old Olivia Wilde.”

    OK. So, from her own data collection, most men are conversing with woman that are at least 5 years younger than themselves.

    50 year old men can date 23 year old women. They just need significant $$$ to the table.

    Even the average guy, once he is 30, can date women 10 years younger well into his 60s.

    Keep in mind the author was originally bemoaning not getting to have 2.3 years more fun to compensate for ‘what men get to do’…….while simultaneously SHAMING men for not ‘manning up and marrying’

    Rather than looking at the age charts (which are probably satirical) and drawing the conclusion that “Holy Shit, men prefer young, fertile women” and adjusting course to marry young…….the writer expects men to change who they are……..because, you know – Feminism.

    This would be funny, if the deferred costs of all this carrousel riding wasn’t destroying the fabric of society.

  31. Neguy says:

    @Casey,

    She’s using a ludicrous edge case to try to undermine the norm. No, a typical 45 year old guy can’t snag a 23 year old. But he can get someone 10+ years younger pretty easily. I suspect that as men age, that gap probably keeps widening for a while.

  32. Casey says:

    @ Neguy

    Agreed.

  33. thedeti says:

    She kind of looks like she’s well on the way to making the most of those extra 2.3 years. I can see some 500-c*ck stare there.

  34. thedeti says:

    The difference between a man after 20 lovers; and a woman after 20 lovers:

    https://heartiste.wordpress.com/2014/08/27/the-difference-between-promiscuous-men-and-promiscuous-women/

  35. Dalrock says:

    @Earl

    “Wouldn’t want to waste your youth and beauty on your husband, would you?” It’s a showstopper.

    It is? I figure based on what I’ve seen and read most women are so deep into selfishness that they don’t care they are wasting their precious gifts on passing men.

    Some are shameless. Most however are playing a game of deniability. Taking that deniability away and exposing the ugliness is very powerful unless she is shameless.

  36. Novaseeker says:

    So much of that article is just trying to convince men to see younger women as off limits. It’s just irritating to her that peer-aged men are able to snag younger sexier women than her … as if she didn’t try to be that girl when she herself was younger and sexier (as hard to imagine as that may be, frankly). No, it’s not “fair”, it’s not “just”, it’s not “equal” and so on. The usual blather you get from that side of the sex aisle when moaning about the current SMP. Yawn, really.

  37. Lost Patrol says:

    Some are shameless. Most however are playing a game of deniability. Taking that deniability away and exposing the ugliness is very powerful unless she is shameless.

    feminists don’t want to waste a day more of their youth and fertility on their husbands than absolutely necessary.

    Not that my day to day life would bring many opportunities to point this out to a young female, but I plan to keep it handy and launch when appropriate. It would be doing her a good turn if no one else in her life has brought it up.

  38. Fiddlesticks says:

    She is certainly already getting a head start on being a nag.

    No husband to nag, but the instinct is so strong that she takes it upon herself to use her media megaphone to nag random bachelors and hypothetical fiances.

  39. earlthomas786 says:

    Not that my day to day life would bring many opportunities to point this out to a young female, but I plan to keep it handy and launch when appropriate.

    I guess it would have to depend on the context of bringing it up. The delay marriage crowd it’s probably a good retort. The hardcore sexually immoral feminists who hate men…they’d probably take it as a badge of honor.

  40. elmertjones says:

    There were some funny Three Stooges episodes where the Larry and Moe had to find a wife for Curly (later it was Shemp) so they could collect an inheritance.

    Larry asks Moe “Do you think we can find him a wife in time?”

    Moe replies “Are you kidding? When Shemp turns on the charm no dame can resist him!”

  41. elmertjones says:

    There were some funny Three Stooges episodes where the Larry and Moe had to find a wife for Curly (later it was Shemp) so they could collect an inheritance.

    Larry asks Moe “Do you think we can find him a wife in time?”

    Moe replies “Are you kidding? When Shemp turns on the charm no dame can resist him!”

  42. Frank K says:

    I really feel for modern women and their burden of having to put off marriage until they tire of having sex with other men. /sarc

  43. Oscar says:

    Dalrock says:
    October 2, 2017 at 1:28 pm

    “Some are shameless.”

    The kids and I just read Jeremiah 6 last night.

    15 “Were they ashamed because of the abomination they have done?
    They were not even ashamed at all;
    They did not even know how to blush.
    Therefore they shall fall among those who fall;
    At the time that I punish them,
    They shall be cast down,” says the Lord.

  44. honeycomb says:

    According to bloom(er)’bugger .. MEN get more out of marriage than th wimminz .. bwhaaaaa

    https://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2017-10-02/rich-men-with-extreme-politics-have-the-happiest-marriages

  45. Lost Patrol says:

    I guess it would have to depend on the context of bringing it up. The delay marriage crowd it’s probably a good retort. The hardcore sexually immoral feminists who hate men…they’d probably take it as a badge of honor.

    No doubt.

  46. American says:

    Wow, what a catch! [sarcasm intended].

  47. Spike says:

    When the awful attitude of the likes of Ms Chalabi are evident in a woman, do the right thing.
    Agree with her.
    In fact, give her a bonus.
    She wants her freedom to sample dicks.
    Sample (if you can stomach it), then leave.
    End result: Lots of penis sampling, lots of cats. Lots of memories.

  48. honeycomb says:

    Th Wimminz ..
    “Don’t judge me .. you don’t know what I’ve been thru!”

    ..

    Me ..
    “Yes I do .. miles and miles of penis!”

  49. earlthomas786 says:

    Reading the whole article is a lesson in how the ticking biological clock and single lady fear of impending spinsterhood vomits up as male hatred.

  50. Son of Liberty says:

    NSFW
    This is just the start. In a few years we’ll see a spike in cosmetic surgeries among women. It’s an endless game where the stupidest of men will always fall for. Sifting through reviews, it seems to me that a lot of single mothers and single promiscuous women are at it, spending thousand$ to catch the next best second source of income or attention.

    Find hundreds of cosmetic treatments reviewed by people on RealSelf.

    Imagine in the next few decades, where the 90%+ of women have SOME sort of cosmetic surgery, hiding their genetic imperfections, and it will be as difficult as knowing if any women around you are virgins or not.. rather hunt for unicorns in the Appalachians.

    South Korea for example, ALL OUT on facial construction, and admittedly they do a damn good job that even their closest relatives can’t tell if they really are their genetic relatives..

    I Want A Gangnam Style Face: S. Korea’s Bizarre Surgery Trend

    Spiritually broken people finding temporary fleshly solutions. These people are certainly Rh+.

  51. Igor says:

    This is one of those rare occasions when Western society makes me feel warm and fuzzy. This grotesquely ugly woman has in effect been sterilized and won’t be cranking out 7-8 vermin as she would have in her native land.

  52. honeycomb says:

    Seems to me things like this should be private .. unless you’re a woman ..

    http://nypost.com/2017/09/30/blogger-turns-skin-removed-in-designer-vagina-surgery-into-necklace/

  53. feeriker says:

    They are open about their hypergamy more and more, because there’s no penalty for doing so.

    Oh, there’s definitely a penalty; it’s just not immediate. The penalty comes years down the road, after they’ve collided with the wall, no man will even look at them, and they’re living in a studio apartment full of cats, just barely getting by on a shitty McJob, and taking antibiotics trying to keep that nasty, incurable STI under some semblance of control.

  54. feeriker says:

    Seems to me things like this should be private .. unless you’re a woman ..

    Not shocking at all in the Age of the Shameless Attention Whore.

  55. honeycomb says:

    freeiker ..

    Not shocking at all in the Age of the Shameless Attention Whore.

    Agreed .. though .. th interwebz arez foreverz yo .. it’s kinda like tat’s .. instant red flag .. good thing they (th wimminz) indentify themselves (as mentally unstable) so easily.

  56. Just Saying says:

    Mona Chalabi writes in the NY Times* I Want My 2.3 Bonus Years

    She can have a lot more than that. Really nothing good to say about this woman. So I won’t say anything.

  57. Anon says:

    feeriker,

    Oh, there’s definitely a penalty; it’s just not immediate. The penalty comes years down the road, after they’ve collided with the wall, no man will even look at them, and they’re living in a studio apartment full of cats, just barely getting by on a shitty McJob, and taking antibiotics trying to keep that nasty, incurable STI under some semblance of control.

    Not just that, but whatever immunity she thinks she has for being a ‘writer’, she still comes from an ethnicity where a 35 y/o spinster is frowned upon. Even if she is an Egyptian Coptic Christian or a something.

  58. desiderian says:

    “As I wrote in A very long season, feminists don’t want to waste a day more of their youth and fertility on their husbands than absolutely necessary.

    Man this is a powerful phrase. I’ve borrowed it several times and said or asked it of others who advise to delay marriage. “Wouldn’t want to waste your youth and beauty on your husband, would you?” It’s a showstopper.”

    The equivalent for men would be making it customary and beyond reproach for men to be released from their wedding vows from 35-45 (the male sexual peak), with the wife being expected to grin and bear it.

  59. Mark says:

    @Dalrock

    Cool post Mister “D”……..””you could be the lucky man paying the bills and getting the side eye!””…….what a lucky shlub I would be…….No thanks!

    A few observations about her picture posted above. She is dark or “olive” skinned. In a few years she is going to have a mustache that will require constant shaving…..and she will also have VERY hairy legs that when shaven will leave a razor stubble that will leave marks on your back like you have walked through a cactus patch. Most importantly,she will have a bush between her legs that is going to require a machete to get through!…..Again….no thanks!

  60. CSI says:

    “This grotesquely ugly woman”
    She’s very attractive, which is why she can get away with writing crap like this.

  61. Dale says:

    @CSI
    Agreed. She is choosing to have long, feminine hair, she is wearing feminine clothes in that picture, and she appears to have a healthy weight.
    Better than the average native-born north american woman. And still unworthy of marriage. Sad.

  62. Cane Caldo says:

    @Earl & Lost Patrol

    I guess it would have to depend on the context of bringing it up. The delay marriage crowd it’s probably a good retort. The hardcore sexually immoral feminists who hate men…they’d probably take it as a badge of honor.

    Hardcore sexually immoral feminists hardly exist in the flesh except in large urban populations. Nor do they have real jobs. They are big talkers online, but slutwalks are rare occurrences for a reason.

    And I really have found it to be a showstopper. There’s just no coming back from that except to become absolutely shameless like a slutwalker. As Dalrock said: What they want is the deniability. They don’t want their behavior to be uncovered.

    Mind you: The women I say things like that to don’t seem to like me afterwards. You have to be ok with that. They don’t hate me, but I am forever afterwards treated as dangerous to talk to…right up until they have been wronged in some social squabble, and then they want me to approve or adjudicate their case. Sometimes I feel like I am Dad everywhere.

  63. Opus says:

    Oh, I see, we are having a beauty contest. So, let me see: that looks very much if I am not mistaken like a man-jaw and those plucked eye-brows are yet very thick. She is Arab and naturally I do not respond to Arabs as I would to say a Swede but making allowance for that I would say she is a 6 or 6.5 which is the sweet-spot for rampant promiscuity. Wouldn’t chuck it out of bed (as they say around here) but definitely not worth taking home to Mother.

    I also note that she has very long hair and here is a curious thing; I have noticed (purely for the sake of research you do understand) that Porn Stars also have very long hair with which with plausible deniability they cover their shame. I suppose Ms Chalabi does the same.

  64. earlthomas786 says:

    What they want is the deniability. They don’t want their behavior to be uncovered.

    It probably works best on the women who are a little more discrete about it. You either uncover the fact they want to be rebellious, sexually immoral, and/or a feminist.

  65. Bruce says:

    “Get fit (i.e., get at least one ab before I die).”

    Besides the point but I find “abs” on a woman unattractive. Not into fat chicks either but low body fat on a woman is unattractive.

  66. Lost Patrol says:

    @Cane, Earl

    Mind you: The women I say things like that to don’t seem to like me afterwards. You have to be ok with that.

    To be sure, this would generate whatever is the direct counterpart to when a woman approves a man via “The Lift”. Normally such an affront is not contained to the woman in question either, as she will feel compelled to share widely what a callous and backward person I am. But in this case she may be trapped because in order to tell the story she will have to reveal to other women what I said.

  67. Igor says:

    Attractive? Wow, I have been outside the US for a few years. I didn’t know the American man had sunk this low in his desperation.

  68. honeycomb says:

    Igor ..

    Attraction is relative to your experience / location.

    ..
    ..

    To be sure .. she is NOT attractive (to me) .. YMWV

  69. Bruce says:

    Attractive? I think you have to adjust for the fact that she’s Arab and (I assume) we are mostly European men. I don’t find dark women particuarly attractive and I suspect most white guys are the same (I do find some Northeast Asian women pretty but they tend to be fair). I think standards are artificially lowered because most western women are fat nowadays.

  70. Bruce says:

    @desiderian

    “The equivalent for men would be making it customary and beyond reproach for men to be released from their wedding vows from 35-45 (the male sexual peak), with the wife being expected to grin and bear it.”

    Great point!

  71. Novaseeker says:

    Attractive? Wow, I have been outside the US for a few years. I didn’t know the American man had sunk this low in his desperation.

    Yeah I don’t find her attractive either. I’ve learned on the internet, though, that if you put 10 guys in a discussion thread and you point them at a picture of a non-fat woman, they will often massively disagree about whether she is attractive or not. There’s more consensus at the tippity top (but even there, there’s disagreements) but everywhere else there’s more lots of wide disagreement.

    Combination of (1) guys like different things and (2) internet tends to bump up the standards (supermodels being described as 5s and so on). Ho hum.

  72. earl says:

    I think standards are artificially lowered because most western women are fat nowadays.

    The bar has been lowered because of this. Even if we go off physical looks, the attitude sinks what attractiveness physically she has.

  73. Jason says:

    This has been going on for years………those women from that ‘Sex In the City’ TV show had terrible personalities, foul mouths, entitlement, ego’s the size of God Himself and the cool-whip on top of all of that……..they all thought they were incredibly hot. Kind of matches this woman who wrote this article.

    The last time I had profile up on a Christian dating site (over five years ago), even the plain-Jane-average-women (not unattractive, but just average….where MOST people fall into) expected a man who was really good looking, been on ten mission trips, had impeccable social-skills, was charming, was a “leader” and had the “confidence to lead a real-woman-of-God” combined with education, a good job, height-weight proportioned, must match her denominational beliefs exactly, and be driven to be a “provider”.

    Don’t match these 100% as a man????? Out comes the ‘Christianese’:

    About waiting on God / keep trying but we just wouldn’t be a good match / her profile says “any distance” but she replies and says the distance is too far / it just wouldn’t work / you have too much information in your profile / you don’t have enough information in your profile / you have a lot to offer, so tell me why are you on a dating site, plenty of women are in your church more than likely waiting for you to ask….

    the list goes on and on….the requirements will “never be enough” because “God has promised her the best, and she’s standing on those promises!”

    The “More Than Don’t Have Sex” guy Justin Campbell put it perfectly on one of his posts awhile back, something to the likes of: When I hear a woman say she just wants a man who loves Jesus, I have to say “no you don’t because I could introduce you to plenty of men right now; you want a man who loves Jesus that you are attracted to on all levels”

    Apologies to Mr. Campbell if that is not quoted verbatim……….but the picture is there…….another 2.3, 4, 6, or ten years won’t be enough for this woman, and just about all single Christian women my age (forties). They are still holding on to the dream that if they just had a little more time……….everything would be okay. They would waste that time even if God Himself granted it.

  74. earl says:

    When I hear a woman say she just wants a man who loves Jesus, I have to say “no you don’t because I could introduce you to plenty of men right now; you want a man who loves Jesus that you are attracted to on all levels”

    Unchecked hypergamy is a b to women. It’s probably just as corrosive to them as being sexually immoral.

    A physically fit, good job, responsible, productive male who is faithful just isn’t enough for the princess complex.

  75. Gaza says:

    lol. Her projection piece is near parody.

    She basically just wants to be a hot dude for a few years. All of these go-girl SIW sex pozz carouselling delusional rants seem to boil down to this: women’s envy of men, specifically apex men.

    The festering envy, which is the taproot of unhappiness, exists because their God-given feminine value has been eradicated in our kulture. They aren’t chasing chad thunderc*ck because he has abs, they are chasing (the idea of) Chad Thunderc*ck because they want to be him, with one ab.

    Dating women spanning a 20 year age range reveals stark evidence of the full lifecycle of the lies consumed and lived by these women. Their future is laid bare, most do not stick the landing.

    And those who do still have the root of unhappiness in their hearts because the end-game is no fun and the envy remains. They do not not overcome this envy when they inevitably “settle down”, they merely enter a new marketplace where their old currency is worthless.

    This is when open hypergamy morphs into open disdain for the husband who fails to compete against the dopamine high of those ghost c*ocks and practice honeymoons, as well as her ongoing zip-code, Pottery Barn, and precocious kid wars with her “friends”.

    And in her blindness, she still laments that she didn’t get enough in the spank-bank to carry her through those boring years to come.

    A particular LOL is that she thinks she can get abs at the “ab machine”. Just like women like her think there is a husband-machine somewhere that cranks out husbands. All they have to do is find it and sit on it for a few, and poof!

    The fact that she mashes the ab machine and quasi-husband (“romantic partner”) into the same awkward sentence is funny – and telling, because it is all downstream of her awesome career, experience, money, and fancy club membership. And because anyone who thinks you get abs at the ab machine obviously knows nothing about getting (husbands) abs.

    This is why I’d rather be one of their mistakes, why I’d rather help her become the woman he will (eventually) love by etching a high-water mark on her dopamine seawall.

    In the olden days, women would paint over that. Now they openly talk of the great tempest of ‘2005’, and all the other torn bedsheets of her youth that led her to him, while her husband squirms around, probably thinking about those same years around 2005 when he was pulling 60 hours a week pounding spreadsheets and eating cereal for dinner.

    Don’t worry bro, you got the prize. No need to thank me either. I was just 1/N of what made her who she is today. Plus, she’s all yours forever – or until she decides she is unhappy, whichever comes first.

  76. earl says:

    The festering envy, which is the taproot of unhappiness, exists because their God-given feminine value has been eradicated in our kulture. They aren’t chasing chad thunderc*ck because he has abs, they are chasing (the idea of) Chad Thunderc*ck because they want to be him, with one ab.

    I always found it confusing that a lot of women who are trying to possess more masculine traits…choose the worst aspects. They don’t choose honor, loyalty, a strong work ethic, courage etc. They choose things like being domineering, bossy, sassy, promiscuous, sarcastic, etc…those traits aren’t very attractive no matter which sex is doing it.

  77. Frank K says:

    Miss Chalabi has what some would call a “butter face”, which her mane, her not being fat and her middle eastern complexion do not hide. If she was at least pleasant and not slutty I could see looking past it, but knowing the state of her soul would scare me off even if she was the most beautiful woman in the world.

    But if she stays thin and can check the attitude she might get lucky and reel in a higher quality beta, resent him until she finally divorces him, keeps half his stuff and gets ransom checks (especially if they have kids) from him for years

  78. Frank K says:

    They choose things like being domineering, bossy, sassy, promiscuous, sarcastic, etc…those traits aren’t very attractive no matter which sex is doing it.

    Even though they protest to the contrary, women are more likely to have casual sex with men with those negative traits, so they probably assume that men also find them attractive in women. Of course, the only thing Chad cares about is how she looks and how good she is in bed, plus how available she is (if she comes to him, calls him, and he doesn’t have to engage in game, then even better).

  79. earlthomas786 says:

    Even though they protest to the contrary, women are more likely to have casual sex with men with those negative traits, so they probably assume that men also find them attractive in women.

    Could also be birds of a feather…

    While I personally don’t find a rebellious woman attractive (I think they emasculate a man in the long run)…I tend to think those negative trait guys are looking for a woman like that for the brief causal sex. I doubt those guys find her personality attractive either though because they just want her body. Certainly a man with sense wouldn’t commit to a woman who shows the traits of a Chad.

  80. earlthomas786 says:

    This came from another blog on a different subject…but it’s a good explaination why our lady is going to probably get more than 2.3 bonus years.

    https://winteryknight.com/2017/09/19/study-explains-why-university-women-embrace-binge-drinking-and-hooking-up/

    Once a woman abandons femininity for feminism, then sex is all that she can use to get noticed by a man. Men are like hiring managers, and courting is like a job interview for the job of marriage and mothering. If a woman tries to get the job by having sex with the interviewer, he isn’t going to hire her for the marriage job, since sex has almost nothing to do with the marriage job. Men have to think about things like fidelity and mothering ability when they are choosing a wife. The problem is that thanks to feminism, women have stopped trying to show their ability to be wives and mothers to men, preferring to instead act like bad boys – no emotions, toughness, hardness, binge-drinking, promiscuity. Men may be happy to have sex with women like that, but they do not commit to them for life. They’re just looked upon as feral animals, to be pumped and dumped by every man who isn’t a Christian. And Christian men are disqualified for relationships with young feminists, because we have morals.

  81. Anonymous Reader says:

    Even though they protest to the contrary, women are more likely to have casual sex with men with those negative traits, so they probably assume that men also find them attractive in women.

    Solipsism underlies a lot of female behavior. It is not necessarily conscious, either.

  82. Gunner Q says:

    “Once a woman abandons femininity for feminism, then sex is all that she can use to get noticed by a man.”

    That’s why women abandon femininity for feminism. They weaponize their sexuality because it’s much less effort than self-denial and concern for others. Women choose to be sluts because sex is the only way she can dominate a man.

  83. mmaier2112 says:

    This NOT helping my cynicism….

  84. earlthomas786 says:

    ‘Women choose to be sluts because sex is the only way she can dominate a man.’

    And if that’s her attitude to dominate a man…it makes her terrible marriage material.

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  87. Kevin says:

    People claiming she wants a beta for the bucks are just confused about life. This woman is an elite in the DC corridor. She makes more money than most of us ever will. She will eventually want marriage from some beta because she wants kids or status. Money she has. Of course hypergamy will push her to want someone who makes the same or more money, but UMC professional women don’t marry for the money, they marry for status and babies. They marry to complete their life dream and feminist credentials.

    I feel pretty sad about the loser man who will bother to marry a slut that wanted to avoid him so she could sleep around. What a world.

  88. I think it’s not so much about the 2.3yrs…but that men should accept mediocrity and not be so picky. Plus, we should accept a and live something decreasing in value, with a smile. Never mind that it’s literally holding a bag of dicks!!😂😂😂
    How dare be picky? How dare we have needs? How dare we have standards? What nerve we have expecting women to be fit?
    We should rise above our biology and date less nubile, less fertile, past-sell-by-date, boring, non-submissive, post carousel, quasi BPD, neurotic females…instead of young women, who want to submit, who want to raise our children, who want to make a home. 😁😁😁 Nope!!! It’s a great time to be man!

  89. rocko says:

    You know, Enrique Iglesias’s grandpa and Mick Jagger have gotten women pregnant. Now, in all fairness, because men that old aren’t guaranteed to be around for much longer, as far as the nurture aspect goes, I don’t think that’s a good of an idea. Still, it proves men can potentially be fertile for many, many years. Yes, perhaps men WILL become less fertile, but still fertile. Compare that with women who wait until their thirties to get pregnant. Even with the ones that do managed to conceive, the probability of birth defects increase, not to mention women at that age will not have the stamina. That’s true especially for career women. I don’t know where this woman was going with this article but she fails big time.

  90. Mr. Roboto says:

    @ dalrock
    This crazy woman is advicing young women to go full slut to get a husband….unbelievable

    http://metro.co.uk/2017/10/05/slutty-women-dont-end-up-single-and-alone-actually-6978986/

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  93. Strefanasha says:

    so she wants to literally play the harlot and then expects her husband – assuming she gets one – to trust her commitment to him? As if faithfulness suddenly clicks in after a decade of carousing? what is this nonsense?

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